For my artistic pals

There is a book called The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho that my mom suggested I read years ago.  [spoiler alert] It’s basically a parable about how the things that we THINK we want are simply catalysts in our lives to drive us to fully realize our potential through the challenges we must overcome to become a better version of ourselves during the journey.  In other words, the gift is not the realizing of our goals but who we become along the way.  [End of spoiler alert]

I have found that my journey as an actor in Los Angeles has definitely stretched me and forced me to grow in ways I never dreamed I needed.  Along the way, the thing that has caused me the most PAIN was not the disappointment, the long hours, grueling physical or mental work, or the rejection, but my EGO.  I’ll say that again.  My EGO is the main source of my pain and my biggest challenge to overcome.

As it turns out, my ego has all these plans and expectations for me.  My ego has a clear image of who I am and how I should be received by others.  And when any of these circumstances are not met to the satisfaction of my ego, it punishes ME.  That doesn’t seem very productive, does it?  Those of us who create in our lives (and I would dare say ALL of us create in our lives in some fashion) are constantly questioned by our ego if our end product is good enough or worthy enough for the image our ego projects upon us.  In fact, it’s why some of us feel paralyzed to put our creative energy out in public at all, because our ego says it’s not good enough…and never will be!

But the good news is:  YOUR EGO IS A LIAR!

Last year, a wonderful friend of mine took me (practically FORCED me!) to a lecture by a fellow actor.  His name is Jack Plotnick.  It was one of the most transformative evenings of my life.  Everything this man said resonated within me deeper and more truthful than almost any other teacher.  What he had to say struck me as so profound I realized that what he was saying was way bigger that just being a good actor.  What he is really teaching is how to get out of your own way in LIFE!

 

Check out this tiny excerpt from Jack’s lecture on how to manage your ego:

What a GIFT to be able to get rid of all the voices in your head telling you you’re not good enough, you can’t achieve something, you’re not smart enough, pretty enough, talented enough, blah, blah, blah.  And that applies to ANYTHING you want in life, whether you want to be a movie star, or an amazing parent, or an honest politician, or the first astronaut to walk on Mars.  The only real obstacle standing between you and whatever you want is YOU!!  Or more specifically, your EGO!

 

So if I have piqued your interest, perhaps you’d like to read more of these life affirming lessons from Jack?  And he offers everything he teaches for FREE on his website:  http://www.jackplotnick.com/4.html New Thoughts for Actors (or politicians, or parents, or astronauts, or whatever you want from life.)  If you click your way through the items on the left of the page, you’ll find over a hundred pages of Jack’s school of thought on how he approaches his chosen field of expression.  His approach is funny and accessible, if not profane at times.  But it is all presented with a loving intent and deep insight.  I hope you find it as powerful as I did!

Because when you can identify and remove the obstacles keeping you from fulfillment, you’ll find All Things Possible!

Chris

 

 

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  1. Wow Chris, there is a treasure trove of information on Jack’s page. It will take me a while to work through it all. But, I’m with you, EGO often gets in our way and if we can control that we can open ourselves up to a much broader world of possibilities.

    Thanks as always for sharing!

    DaveW

    • ChristopherShowerman

      Thanks Dave!! I’m glad you found it interesting too!!! I love the study of behavior – especially my own!!

      Have a great week!!

      ATP!
      C

  2. Tim

    Happy Birthday! Pretty sure this one has the same digits front and back. That won’t happen again for another 11 years! Enjoy the day
    T

  3. Alex

    Happy Birthday Chris!!

    Overcoming the Ego and all its bad effects is a very important step in the evolution so thanks for what you shared and wrote in this great post.

    Take care everyone.

    • ChristopherShowerman

      Thanks so much Alex!! I appreciate the birthday wishes and share your beliefs in our evolution!! I think that is what getting older SHOULD be all about – evolving! Otherwise, what do we have to show for our time here? 🙂

      All Things Possible,
      C

  4. Tim

    I finally got a chance to watch the video from Jack Plotnick and it reminds of another video clip I just watched of a young guy who works at the gym I belong to. He recently competed in a bodybuilding competition and the video was his post competition interview. Much of what he said falls in line with what Jack Plotnick said in his clip. Being in control of ones ego is a talent. This kid has it

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QCdC6nqrNs0

    Happy 4th folks near and far

    T

  5. Holy Ego

    Great stuff–but what if your vulture doesn’t just NAG, but vomits on you? That’s one of a vulture’s(nasty and effective) self-defense tactics, you know…..I don’t havta worry too much about bloated or warped ego, living and working with animals of all kinds–they tend to quickly bite holes in swollen egos and let the hot air out! Nothing quite like being put in your place by a “dumb” animal! And they teach you what is REALLY important in life. Talk about coincidence(are there really any coincidences?)–I JUST read a great quote soooo appropo here! Not sure WHO it is from, but “Don’t go looking for success, do what you love, and success will find you!” And happy belated B-day, Chris, AND happy belated Little Bighorn Day(June 25th, 1876) everybody!…..L.B.

    • ChristopherShowerman

      Hahahaha! I love your perspective Lane! Yes, animals do help to ground us back into the real world, unless those animals are vomiting vutures! 🙂

      • Holy Ego

        …And another thing–“SUCCESS” is greatly over-rated. One should strive to be HAPPY–what good is all the recognized “success” in the world if one is not happy? To me(and virtually all other animals and most so-called primitive peoples), TRUE success IS happiness!…L.B.

  6. Tim

    Ah, happiness. For some people, life is a journey. For others, a destination. I tend to be more of the former. If I were to die tomorrow, I would do so happy having no regrets with possibly the exception of not having a kid. That said, when ever that feeling of lost opportunity hits me, I go to Walmart and the feeling quickly disappears…..
    T